Making a Case for Silent Saturday

Real Family –

Saturday, 10/22 is Colorado Soccer Association’s (CSA) Silent Soccer Saturday!  Are you excited?  Looking forward to it?  Me either.  Well, that’s not entirely true.  I did feel that way a couple of years ago when Silent Soccer Saturday was first introduced, but now I’ve come to appreciate – even look forward  – to it, and think a good number of players do as well.  The CSA website lists the objectives for Silent Soccer Saturday and it’s worth a read if you have a few minutes, (you can access that information here.) I won’t restate what’s on the CSA site but would like to offer my input about Silent Soccer Saturday.

Initially, I was confused about the branding and I’m not sure that I 100% agree with it.  Soccer shouldn’t be silent.  Soccer is and should be exciting.  CSA encourages us to clap instead of using our voices, but  that this is a difficult task.  It’s just plain hard not to say “Great cross!  Nice shot!  Awesome save!”  I differ from CSA in that regard, but completely agree with the no coaching from the sideline concept.

I coached for several years and recently facilitated a U9 game and was amazed how much players hear from the sidelines while on the field.  It was a good reminder to not coach my own kids when they play; something that I catch myself doing more than I’d like to admit.  Players do get confused when dad says to drop while coach says to play up, or when mom says to move to the right when coach says to pinch to the middle.  Conflicting instruction not only causes confusion and creates frustration for the players, it contradicts the positioning and play that the coach is trying to teach.

If we substitute the field for an office, imagine what your day might be like if people in other departments were to coach you as you tried to do your job:  “Hit Control, Alt, Delete……. I said DELETE!!!  Don’t drag and drop that file THERE!  That’s YOUR red stapler ..… don’t let Suzie take it!  WHAT ARE YOU DOING???  Pay Attention!”

Pretty distracting, right?  And the employee is not responsible for their own decision making, which quickly develops bad habits.  Managers should coach their staff, but co-workers down the hall should not take on that responsibility.  When players communicate, good things happen.  Yes, mistakes are made but that’s how we all learn.  I know from experience that it’s easier said than done, but let’s let the coach’s coach, the ref’s ref and the players play.  Most importantly, be proud of the work that your player puts into their development and enjoy watching them play!

Thank you for your continued support of the club, our coaches and players.

John Urosevich

  • Former Coach
  • Parent of U12, U9 and U7 players
  • Director, Real Colorado Board of Directors
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Douglas County Soccer Association, better known as Real Colorado, is a youth soccer club located in Highlands Ranch, Colorado.  Our mission and vision statements are probably familiar and certainly are not unique to youth organizations across the myriad of sports.  If you want to find out more about who Real Colorado is, check out our website at  It’s through this blog I hope our club can bring our experiences through the eyes of board members, executive leadership, parents, players and community leaders to help people be better parents, coaches and fans of the incredible game of soccer.

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